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Posted in: 47-year-old man arrested for stealing women's underwear from coin laundry See in context

Yeah, the problem here is the stealing, mostly, cause if he bought it, I guess it'd ll be ok. I mean, if some guy wears female underwear, people say he's sick. But if he goes under the knife to get sex reassignment surgery and claims that he's a female now, he may get the cover of Vanity Fair!

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Posted in: Heartache for Japan's 40-year-old virgins See in context

@cleo

Equality doesn't mean the same in everything.

Well, that’s what you say. Every group that talks about “equality” has a different definition. And yes, some indeed say equality means “the same in everything” (because our differences are social constructs and all that). That’s why we have quotas.

I don’t care about what they say “equality” is, I care about what they do. And what I find is that “equality” seems to mean “we’re equal when it suits women, we’re not when it doesn’t”, with no clear cut criterion. So equal pay in every job, no matter different choices and performance? “yes, because we’re equal”; equal distribution of key political positions, enforced through the power of the State? “sure, we’re equal”; equal representation in the upper echelons of business, academia and the scientific community, promoted through programs funded by taxes we all pay? “sure, we’re equal”; equal expectation to approach the opposite sex? “oh no no no, we’re not equal! Vive la difference!”.

You can't go around telling people how they should or should not lead their lives.

No one is doing that. Didn’t you notice the “what if I say” part?

Anyway, I’m not and have not advocated for equality. I won’t hide for a single moment that I’m not a believer in “gender equality”. I’m just pointing out the lack of consistency.

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Posted in: Heartache for Japan's 40-year-old virgins See in context

@Disco J

Exactly, this is an article about men who have issues with women. Not with cars or computers, but women. The difference is that women have agency. Whether a man has a relationship or not is at the very least half decided by a woman. You can’t have a discussion on relationships that’s purely about men or women. So whenever men’s issues with women are discussed, comments on women are relevant, and vice versa.

We have an article about men who are unsuccessful with women. Posters say “well, you should try this and that”, based on the assumption that men have to do the work when it comes to relationships. I can’t think of a situation where a comment like “wait, how come women aren’t expected to do the work too?” would be more relevant.

Articles about successful, educated, independent women in their 40s who complain that they’re still not married are flooded with comments like “why don’t men approach these women?”. Hell, even articles about mothers who can’t find jobs are flooded with comments like “why don’t fathers help wives?”. Now imagine yourself posting “this article is about women who have issues with men so those comments are irrelevant”. Do you seriously not see how absurd that is?

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Posted in: Heartache for Japan's 40-year-old virgins See in context

@DiscoJ Check your reading comprehension. My post is clearly not about the content of the article. My post is clearly about "the hypocritical, unsympathetic, uninterested advice", i.e., the comments on the content of the article. So it's very relevant.

@ShibuyaJay2 and @cleo When posters read about these 40yo virgins (or any virgin males anywhere), their typical advice is: "well, do this and do that and keep trying, someday you'll succeed". No one doubts that men must do the work. Aren't we in the 21st century? Why do posters automatically jump to an scenario where the man has to do all the work?

Ah, because we know it'd be counterproductive for men to expect women to approach them. So people say as ShibuyaJay2: since it's women who have what men desire, men are expected to do the chase. But this idea has a dark implication: that men don't have what women desire, so women aren't expected to do the chase. Is that true? Am I to understand that women don't really like men and a great effort is needed to "conquer" them? Or is a better explanation that women also want what men have but they won't do the chase because it's hard and they can't risk being rejected and having their pretty little feelings hurt.

"Well, but these men are unattractive; that's why women won't approach them". But don't we hear all the time that women are enlightened beings who only care about "what's inside"? Why no woman has made a move to try and discover what "beautiful things" these men may have "in their hearts"? Of course, that'd be unrealistic... but why doesn't it happen?

Here's the thing: if a man complains that he isn't approached by women because he's unattractive, people will say "well, women like this and that, so do and act accordingly; anyway, find a solution or deal with it" and then think "what a nuisance this guy is". He's regarded as unrealistic and even entitled. How dare he expect women to approach men, let alone unattractive men? But if a woman isn't approached by men because she's unattractive, people sympathize with her while chastising men for being superficial and caring only about looks. A suggestion like "well, you know men like pretty faces, hot bodies and blowjobs, so maybe get your face fixed, get a b00b job and a lipo, and then let men know you want to give blowjobs ", though realistic and guaranteed to get her laid, would be harshly criticized and booed into oblivion.

if people are supposedly striving for equality, why do these expectations still exist? It's hypocritical.

"Ah, but mating dynamics are a matter of natural differences; vive la difference". And I agree with that. But what if I say "well, women shouldn't work outside; they should stay at home cause they're naturally fitted to take care of children"? Oh, the mere thought! I'd get torches and pitchforks.

If we're going to be equal at any cost, we better be equal in all respects.

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Posted in: Heartache for Japan's 40-year-old virgins See in context

All the hypocritical, unsympathetic, uninterested advice here can be summarized like this: "you just have to keep trying" "you got to learn how to deal with rejection" "meh, others can! There must be something wrong with you" And the classic "Because Japan's society blah blah blah"

So where is equality?

Why don't women try? Why don't women approach and risk rejection? Where are the voices for equality complaining that, when it comes to approaching, women are still expected to leave all the work to men, and it's men and only who are laughed at when the approach fails?

It's easy to call a man "dirty", "ugly", "old" and a "creeper" when your part in the play is only to sit on your ass and push the accept/reject button.

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Posted in: Multiracial Miss Japan hopes to change homeland's thinking on identity See in context

@virgo Didn't you see that I gave Svetlana a typical African last name (maybe not exactly Kenyan, but the point still gets across), thus implying that one of her parents is Kenyan? Like her, Ariana has Japanese blood but she's not representative of the Japanese. So yes, it is the same thing, but apparently the complaints of the Japanese are unjustified and dismissed because they aren't some poor oppressed 3rd World country.

I completely promote miscegenation but the fact stands that Japan is not a miscegenated country. In fact, we're still far from a world where everybody looks Brazliian.

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Posted in: Multiracial Miss Japan hopes to change homeland's thinking on identity See in context

What we see here is a clash between pre-State and post-State notions of identity and nationality. The idea that a legal recognition by a State and a set of functional qualifications, represented in an official document and the ability to both speak the language fluently and master the society's customs, is enough to grant its holder "nationality" of a certain country, that in order to become Japanese it's enough to get a Japanese citizenship, speak Japanese and learn to use chopsticks, is post-State. But for most societies nationality transcends merely (again) legal and functional qualifications and includes ethnicity. You may call it outdated and racist, but it is what it is, and last time I checked there isn't a fixed, proper criterion for identity and nationality, nor it belongs to the West the sole right to decide it.

There was this debate on a South African talk show where Black South Africans basically told a White South African who was complaining about attacks on White farmers, that she should instead be grateful they haven't kicked her out of the country, no matter her citizenship or her family's history in the country, because South Africa is for Black Africans. In South America, people often complain that most of the prominent figures, including many presidents, are descendants of immigrants (French, German, American, Lebanese, Syrian, Japanese, Swedish) who came to the country in as late as the 1st half of the XX. They can't help but feel like the country has been overtook by foreigners. So these previous examples show that many people still link ethnicity to nationality.

No let's imagine if a girl called Svetlana Mbanga, who is a blonde with blue eyes and practically indistinguishable from any other girl in Moscow, is elected Miss Kenya. I don't think Kenyans would be very pleased. And I wonder if the PC army would criticize the Kenyans for that reaction as much as they have the Japanese.

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Posted in: Woman arrested for stabbing 17-year-old son See in context

@smithinjapan

Completely agree. Women can do no wrong. Simply no accountability is ever expected of them. Is this equality?

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Posted in: Chiba woman arrested for killing daughters aged 4, 1 See in context

Whenever a crazy woman snaps and commits some atrocity, I see the frogs jump out of their ponds to soften, dismiss or even blatantly excuse her. "Where was the father?", because it's inconceivable that it's the woman fault's only. Someone else has to be at least partially at fault, right?. And everybody's favorite: "Oh, it's the stress of motherhood/postpartum depression". Now that's a dumbfounding notion: a thing such as motherhood, which women have successfully done throughout millennia, is suddenly deemed so unbearably stressing for the modern mother that killing her offspring is an understandable outlet. And the prize goes to: "her husband didn't do house work". So guys, you better start doing the dishes if you don't want your wife to kill your children. Now if it was a man who did this, we'd have a flood of comments calling for his balls to be cut and fed to him. Imagine a man using the "I felt lonely and depressed and I didn't any have any support from the State/society" defense. He'd be laughed all the way to the ball-cutting-and-feeding-to-yourself-o-matic. There will never be true equality as long as we have these double standards.

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Posted in: Gov't to launch campaign against hate speech See in context

Yeah, we all know what "hate speech" is, right? So we should all support these "hate speech" laws all over the world! But be prepared to support them also when the other side is in power and what you consider perfectly decent, even virtuous speech suddenly becomes "hate speech". It's happened before, it will happen again. People never learn.

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Posted in: Man who tried to rob convenience store only had 100 yen at home See in context

No excuse. Any job, no matter how low, is better than mugging. If you ultimately can't get a job, begging is still better than stealing.

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Posted in: Gaffe-prone Aso criticizes women who don't give birth See in context

Bullst. All you need to have children is a man and a woman of child-bearing age, provided that they are fertile and with healthy reproductive organs. People have been doing it this way for millennia and they still do it even in the most world's worst backwater st holes. The idea that you need "childcare facilities" and a long string of government-sponsored programs is simply preposterous. Why no one will admit the truth, which is that they're selfish? They want to spend their time and resources only on themselves and the only whims they want to cater are their own because a child is, at least in developed countries, deemed to be a burden (rightly so) and people don't want to carry it. This is especially true in Japan. Now, there's nothing wrong with that and I support selfishness all the way, but then don't go saying that the reason you can't have children is because the big bad government doesn't want to help you! That is far more stupid than Aso's remarks.

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Posted in: Step in See in context

Aw C'mon! This is just an example of Engrish, at worst. If you take it literally, it makes perfect sense. And "foreigner" isn't an offensive epithet by itself, last time I checked.

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Posted in: Asia's rising tobacco epidemic See in context

"anti-smoking laws". Yet another reason why those primitive folks back in Asia are supposed to catch up with the West, right? And yet another excuse for the ban-happy crew to impose their holy will over other people. It's an awful practice, yes, but an epidemic? Seriously, like dengue? It's something people do voluntarily, for god's sake!

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Posted in: Man arrested for taking 'normal' picture of woman on train See in context

Giving women the power to make laws based on feelings.

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Posted in: Japanese publishers blast new Amazon book sale rules See in context

Don't like Amazon's terms? Take your business elsewhere. It's a FREE MARKET.

But no! You can already hear the voices calling for laws to stop evil companies from harming what amounts to social interests. You're judging Capitalism by socialist standards.

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Posted in: U.S. gun tourism grows in popularity See in context

People come from overseas to experience the thrill of doing what are widely considered to be stupid things. But hey! If you are not free to do stupid things, you are not truly free. Doing and saying stupid things are fundamental rights of an individual.

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Posted in: Health ministry requests Y1.1 bil budget to deal with 'dangerous drugs' See in context

For governments it's all about the the money. First create a ptoblem, then blow it out of proportion until it becomes a crisis, then demand a budget.

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Posted in: Boob Aid: Porn queens to take part in 24-hour 'squeeze-a-thon' See in context

It comes after sexist heckling of a Tokyo assemblywoman hit the headlines, highlighting old-fashioned views toward women that still permeate Japanese society.

No need for this comment. Can't readers make their own opinions?

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Posted in: In some countries, there is a ban on adults and children wearing religious clothing and symbols such as burqas, veils, head scarves, skullcaps, turbans and crucifixes in public places like schools, re See in context

LeChatBotte

You seem to misunderstand it. In "Liberte, Egalite, Fraternite" liberte, i-e freedom comes first.

Are you really drawing conclusions out of slogans? Check the facts, they all point to this: the French Revolution was all about equality, not freedom (and it certainly wasn't about fraternity). This is why France passes laws that sacrifice the individual freedoms of her citizens in order to achieve a society that looks to some extent homogeneously secular.

Now remember that your freedom stops where the others' start.

How does the fact that other people wear religious symbols stop my freedom at all?

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Posted in: In some countries, there is a ban on adults and children wearing religious clothing and symbols such as burqas, veils, head scarves, skullcaps, turbans and crucifixes in public places like schools, re See in context

Strongly oppose the ban. I support individual freedom to dress as you want in public places. It's not surprising that this happens in France, since they strive for equality rather than freedom. This is where egalitarianism eventually leads.

However, I also support the right of private places to deny entrance. So if I don't want you wearing burkas in my private home or business, I can rightfully refuse to let you in or serve you.

I disagree with telling these people to "just go home". However, if the prospect to move to another country put me in a position to choose between my beliefs and a financially better life, and I deemed my beliefs to be more important than my material well-being, I simply wouldn't go there. The fact that these people are in France means they already made their choice and they should own it. Moving to another country expecting that people there accommodate me, rather than I accommodate them, is at best silly and at worst arrogant. Especially when Muslim countries don't accommodate foreigners.

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Posted in: Interpol seeks clues to Thai 'baby factory' See in context

As long as no crime is established or abuse proven, I see absolutely nothing immoral or wrong with some guy wanting to have as many children as he wants, provided that he can take care of every single one of them. Since when is a natural drive to reproduce a crime? Gimme a break, you PC drones!!! Not everyone is a Western liberal open-minded middle-class Starbucks-sipping organic-food-chewing college graduate. Remember that our forefathers used to have long families, I mean over ten children. My grandparents had eleven children before my grandmother hit her thirties, and that was the norm, not the exception. So this is by no means unheard of. Quite the opposite, actually.

You know what's sick? Imposing your mores on other people. And you know what's even sicker? People who say they don't want to have any children! I should know cause I'm one of them. However, I'm honest enough to admit that is truly unnatural. Every single creature in nature wants to reproduce, even the lowest bacteria. I respect both choices because I'm all for individual freedom, but I can't understand why, among all things, you'd be disgusted by what this guy's doing.

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Posted in: Anxiety makes Japanese stingy, says psychologist See in context

Saving the best piece of a meal for last has nothing with to do with stinginess or "valuing possession over enjoyment" -what a far-fetched load of bull! It has to do with delaying the pleasure so it becomes more rewarding, so it's actually all about enjoyment. It's a widespread custom in my homeland, which is probably the farthest you can get from the Japanese culturally. As someone who's been exposed to a steady flow of tourism, I've also come across lots of people from everywhere who do that. Actually, based solely on my experience, I'd say people who don't save the best piece of a meal for last are the exception. It just seems like the natural thing to do.

And this is some fine study, drawing "scientific" conclusions from such trivial observations. But hey, Psychology is not even science.

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