the chinese, hands down. i have never come across chinese tourists who weren't rude in some way, whether loud, cutting in line, pushing in front of you to get an item, stepping on you or bumping you without apology etc. i mean, my god, the chinese are apes. but don't get me wrong, i love those apes, just not as tourists. the problem is that they're like this in areas where people are trying to relax, take in culture, or experience something somber or sacred as in a lot of cases in japan. i don't mind chinese tourists in shops or exciting areas, really, but when i'm at a zen garden and i hear them screaming ten feet away, well, my love for their chaotic and boisterous culture goes out the window.
on the other hand, i can't stand being around any english speaking tourists. besides japanese, english is the only language i speak and i can't stand how loud they usually are because it is very difficult to ignore their conversation. that is the case when i'm in america as well, so it doesn't apply only to tourists, and i don't hold it against them unless they're being exceptionally loud.
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It is hard, almost impossible, to become real friends with Japanese people, or fit in Japan, yes. Everyone knows this. What I want to know is why people insist on living in a country where this is the case. This is the reason I don't have any non-Japanese friends in Japan - all they do is analyze, criticize, complain, and in general exist in a state of indignant confusion. I don't want to have endless conversations about the anthropology of Japan, because I live in this country and I accept it for what it is and go with the flow. It doesn't bother me if things don't make sense or are contradictory, as long as I can figure it out and function. You know why it is hard to fit in with Japanese people? You are not Japanese. It is that simple. Japanese people are not like you, they work incredibly hard and make so many sacrifices because it is the Japanese way, because they are Japanese. Do you do that - do you act in regard to the Japanese way? Japanese people do. This is literally what makes people Japanese, this is what gives them a collective consciousness, the thing they are so proud of. Would you sacrifice your life for Japan? Because Japanese people would. Do you care about the future of Japan more than yourself? Because most Japanese people do, and even if they don't, they will act as if they do because this is the way of Japan. This is why Japan has a low crime rate, it is why things work the way they do, and Japanese people want it that way. So until you can identify with Japanese on an experiential level, they will not be able to identify with you or trust you. Japanese are subjective people, utterly. They generally don't analyze or have objectivity. Don't expect them to be different, or to change. They won't. It doesn't matter if it's a good or bad thing. The problem is with you and the solution is that you move to a country that is suited to you and your way of life.
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