Lisa Twaronite comments

Posted in: Father of 2-year-old girl who died after being left in car for 7 hours last summer to be charged See in context

I can perfectly understand how this could have happened, because when my older son was five months old, I went grocery shopping, loaded the groceries in the car, and drove home.....and realized I'd left the baby in my shopping cart in the parking lot. Fortunately, he was still there when I got back. I wasn't drunk or on drugs -- just overwhelmed, exhausted and clearly in need of a hand. That incident made me a lot less judgmental of other parents.

In this case, charging the father or not won't do much either way -- he's already suffering the ultimate punishment. His little girl is dead, and he knows he is to blame. He has to live with this for the rest of his life.

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Posted in: Man arrested for assaulting girlfriend’s 10-month-old daughter See in context

I bet the guy was abused himself when he was a child -- of course that's no excuse for what he did, which is inexcusable, but it shows the profound need for psychological outreach to those in need to help to break the cycle of violence before it can harm future generations.

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Posted in: If you are a foreign resident (either permanent, long term or short term) of Japan, do you currently feel safer living here amid the coronavirus, or would you prefer to be in some other country? See in context

I wish I were back home in the US with my family. It's definitely not "safer" there, based on case numbers, but the vaccine is already being distributed there.

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Posted in: Woman arrested after stabbing sleeping husband and setting fire to his futon See in context

So many questions, so few answers. I hope both husband & wife get mental health help.

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Posted in: Mother arrested for murder after suffocating 15-day-old son See in context

@sir_bentley28, you sound like a wonderful husband and father! Although it was decades ago, I remember being so sleep-deprived and overwhelmed that when my newborn son cried, I stared at him, unsure of what to do next. Although it's very uncommon for new mothers to have post-partum psychosis, it is VERY common for women to experience different degrees of post-partum depression, so it's worth mentioning this to your wife's doctor. There are different treatment options. A woman doesn't have to be on the verge of desperation to benefit from help and support. I regret I wasn't more proactive in seeking help, but many years ago, when I told my doctor I was struggling, he asked me, "Are you thinking of harming your baby? Are you thinking of harming yourself?" and when I answered no to both questions, he assured me I was "fine." Well, I wasn't fine at all! The question he should have asked me was, "Are you okay?"

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Posted in: Mother arrested for murder after suffocating 15-day-old son See in context

@sir_bentley28 -- congratulations on your baby girl! I hope she and your wife (and you) are all healthy. If you're seriously concerned about your wife, make as much effort as you can to communicate with her, and support her in whatever way you can. Even if you have a traditional division of labor (husband working outside the home, wife staying home with the kids), don't think of raising kids as "her job" but as the shared responsibility of both parents, who need to support each other when they're feeling overwhelmed. Tragedies like this one are fortunately very uncommon, but it's quite common for new mothers to struggle at times because taking care of an infant can be physically exhausting, particularly when one is trying to recover from childbirth. Also, everyone's body chemistry is different, and post-partum hormones can make some women more emotional than they usually are. Some women are shy about asking help, but few refuse it when offered. Good luck, and again, congratulations!!!

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Posted in: Mother arrested for drowning her 2 children in bathtub See in context

@rainyday, it goes without saying that children whose suffer abuse from mentally ill parents are innocent victims who deserve our sympathy -- and help, if it's not too late. But I always speak up for the mothers, since I can personally relate to them due to my own struggles. Doing a monstrous thing doesn't necessarily make someone a monster, and so whenever I see many people reflexively leave comments like, "Hang her!" "Sterilize her!" etc., I make it a point to express my empathy. I always think, "There but for the grace of G*d go I," and people might have been reading an article about me! I leave it up to the criminal justice system to determine whether people who commit these acts are criminally insane and had no idea what they were doing in the moment, or whether they knew what they did was wrong. But the bottom line is that "monsters" are the the ones who need help the most, and are least likely to get it.

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Posted in: Mother arrested for drowning her 2 children in bathtub See in context

@rainyday, Japan is not a country that makes it easy for the mentally ill to ask for help -- particularly mothers, who are frequently told to "gaman" and always put their children's needs ahead of their own at all times. Such a mentality will surely lead to more tragic cases like this one. It's easy to dismiss a mentally ill person who commits a crime as an isolated "monster" -- it's far harder to help such mothers, before it's too late. (And here is a good place to say my usual line about how it is ideal to prevent crisis pregnancies in the first place, although I'm not sure it applies to this case.)

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Posted in: Mother arrested for drowning her 2 children in bathtub See in context

@rainyday, I will just say I fully empathize with this woman and leave it at that. I hope she gets the help she clearly needs.

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Posted in: Mother arrested for murder after suffocating 15-day-old son See in context

@kaimycahl, I will just say I empathize with her and leave it at that. And help is NOT "the easiest thing to ask for," particularly in Japan.

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Posted in: Mother arrested for murder after suffocating 15-day-old son See in context

The poor woman -- I hope she gets the help she needs. I completely empathize with what she did, having been in her place.

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Posted in: Mother arrested for drowning her 2 children in bathtub See in context

Ego Sum Lux Mundi Today 11:52 am JST

You forgot the children, the people who really deserve the appellation "poor" in all this. Slipped your mind?

It goes without saying. But I've been in the poor woman's position myself, and I can relate to how difficult the struggle of motherhood can be -- it's a tragedy that she wasn't able to get help before she did this.

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Posted in: Mother arrested for drowning her 2 children in bathtub See in context

Poor woman. I hope she gets the mental health help she so clearly needs -- and should have gotten long before this happened. My heart also goes out to the poor grandmother.

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Posted in: Couple arrested after infant’s body left in refrigerator See in context

We do not know if a crime was committed until the cause of death is determined. There are Japanese laws against abandoning a corpse, but surely it wasn't abandoned in this case?

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Posted in: Fetus found in garbage truck in Iwate See in context

A 15 cm fetus, on average, should weigh over 200g, so who knows if it was a measurement error or a pregnancy that wasn't properly developing. If it was too big to flush down a toilet, then the garbage a logical place for disposal, since laws about disposing of a corpse apply only to full-term babies born alive (or so I believe). Yes, it was a human life in its nascent stages, and its mother is a human, too, and I hope she's okay. And here I will make my usual comment: it is ideal to prevent unwanted pregnancies in the first place.

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Posted in: Woman arrested for burying body of newborn baby in park a year ago See in context

@samuraivunyl, I speak as someone who was once in her place, so I don't judge her. It's easy to call women like me murderers, but how does it help anyone? Obviously it's best that such pregnancies be prevented in the first place.

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Posted in: Part of newborn baby's body found in drugstore toilet See in context

What poor, desperate soul would resort to doing something like that? I hope the mother gets the help she needs.

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Posted in: Woman arrested for burying body of newborn baby in park a year ago See in context

The poor woman. I hope she finds peace.

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Posted in: Mom who went drinking all night indicted over deaths of daughters left in car See in context

Poor mother. I have been in her place. I wish her peace.

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Posted in: Mother arrested after daughters, aged 6 and 3, die in overheated car while she goes drinking See in context

I have to wonder why women who are accused of crimes are usually described as "unemployed" while other women are "mothers" or "housewives."

Of course, we can't know for sure what the real story of this tragic incident might be. Some people really do it by accident -- and pay the ultimate price: https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/fatal-distraction-forgetting-a-child-in-thebackseat-of-a-car-is-a-horrifying-mistake-is-it-a-crime/2014/06/16/8ae0fe3a-f580-11e3-a3a5-42be35962a52_story.html

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Posted in: 23-year-old man arrested for beating 3-year-old stepson See in context

Families like this need help BEFORE something like this happens.

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Posted in: 2-year-old girl dies after being left in car for 7 hours See in context

I used to read stories like this and wonder WTF kind of parent would do something like this. And then one day, after yet another sleepless night carrying for my baby, I loaded my groceries in the car, and drove away, leaving my 5-month old son in the parking lot. I made it all the way home before I realized what I had done.

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Posted in: Woman arrested after trying to kill one-year-old son See in context

I was one of those mothers, too. I hope she can get the help she needs. Glad her son was all right!

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Posted in: 15-year-old boy dies after apparently shooting himself See in context

I feel for his parents. I can't help but imagine, what if it were my son.

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Posted in: Bodies of 36-year-old man, 2-year-old girl found in storage yard See in context

Tragic that the poor name didn't get the help he clearly needed. And my heart goes out to the mother who lost her baby girl.

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Posted in: Mother dies, 7-year-old daughter injured in leap from building See in context

Poor woman. So sad. I have been in her place, and feel her pain. May she rest in peace. May her daughter get the help & healing she needs.

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Posted in: Mother accused of drowning 11-month-old daughter in bathtub to undergo psychiatric test See in context

I really feel for mothers who do this sort of thing, having been in their place myself. I hope she gets help.

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Posted in: 18-year-old woman arrested over death of 9-month-old son See in context

That poor woman -- I hope she gets the help she needs. I have been in her place.

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Posted in: Woman arrested for leaving fetus in suitcase in Nagoya See in context

The poor woman. I hope she isn't charged with any crime and gets the help she needs.

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Posted in: Mother arrested for trying to kill 16-year-old son by setting fire to house See in context

That poor woman....I hope the family gets the help they clearly need.

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