Not the sort of get up you want to be seen in if you want to get lucky.
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“I fear violence”
Right. That there is no imminent danger of any kind, that it's all imagined and fabricated as part of manipulative tactics is immaterial. J-girls are scared of their shadows. I cannot believe how many times I have heard them express the most nonsensical fears. Tell me to "go home if you don't like it" all you want, but there are so many ways that Japan fails. This is a major one.
"I'm scared" is as common as "You use chopsticks very well". Meaningless.
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Has anyone else noticed the similarities between the Ainu and the Pacific Northwest indigenous cultures? I suspect they are related.
The excellent magazine Kyoto Journal: Perspectives from Asia had an extensive article on this subject many years ago. The answer is yes. However, since then more research in the field may have uncovered further connection.
As KJ often has back issues, anyone interested in the question could check their website and contact the editors of subscription department to find out.
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Obligation (as in being obliged to turn up on time for work or anything else of that ilk) fundamentally destroys the concept of a loving and generous outpouring of affection via an act of thoughtful symbolism on a particular day.
I give you this on one day in turn for you giving me that on another (at a great hassle to both of us) is a ridiculous trade. Nothing more.
Valentine's Day is meant for thoughtful, symbolic expressions between individuals, not you all do me this month followed by I do all you next.
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...legalizing gay marriage isn't going to suddenly make people more accepting of gays...
This is true. However, the point of having legal marital status is not a point of social acceptance (though once something is legal rather than illegal people tend to shift toward greater tolerance).
The status of a legitimized spouse includes a number of rights that non-married partners do not have. A spouse can act on behalf of an incapacitated partner, is automatically entitled to pension benefits. and cannot be denied access during an illness or the right to make decisions about attendance at funeral services when the partner dies. Any shared property or children or pets remain in the care and control of the widowed partner.
In the case of the two women in the photo, after 25 years together, if one of them should die the other would stand to lose everything. It's quite possible that in addition to the sorrow of losing a faithful and beloved partner, she would end up homeless and impoverished when there is absolutely NO reason for such discrimination.
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Why doesn't the Japanese government simply hire a car to run past the South Korean Embassy multiple times daily for a month (or more if that's what it takes) and blast a verbatim repeat of every past apology? Then end it with: We apologized for the actions of previous governments. We also paid compensation. But again, we apologize and in accordance with your desires will continuously do so.
They'd probably be asked to stop apologizing. Just sayin'....
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Posted in: The world's postal services are struggling with lower demand for letter deliveries. How would you feel if the mailman became a thing of the past? Do you still eagerly look in your mailbox each day? See in context
The diminishing art of letter writing is a regrettable thing. From the choice of special papers, the type of pen used, and the emotional tone derived from the first few lines about the weather; much is conveyed in a letter that email, text messaging and video calls cannot emulate (much less preserve).
To intimates I write an email as if it were a letter; however, nothing irks me more than when the recipient takes half a second to tap one of the stock messages suggested at the bottom by AI and chucks in a couple of emoji. What a superficial "connection" that is.
I still have a few conscientious correspondents--mostly by email--but when I do receive a letter that someone has taken the time and energy to post, I treasure those letters. Some I have kept for many years.
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The deer in Nara are nasty and messy creatures which roam wherever they like because they're gods. Did you know?
Was there on a rainy November day and the streets were slimy with their waste. Disgusting.
And yes, humans feeding them are most of the problem. My colleague was bitten on the knee and badly bruised. Why? Because she had bought two packets of crackers to feed the adorable (to her) things. The first was snatched in one gulp, and she had trouble opening the second packet she held in her hands. Not getting what it wanted fast enough the beast let her know.
Not exactly her fault, but certainly reason enough to be vigilant and wary. I would never allow a 2 year-old feed them and risk a broken hand or arm. I give them a wide berth wherever they roam freely.
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Thanks but no thanks. Ie kekko desu.
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This is nothing in this situation that can't be remedied by relaxing the arbitrary and ridiculous rules. An earring or a girl's hair ornament or hair colour/style or nail polish or make up or any number of innocuous things which fall into the category of body ornaments are irrelevant to the soul of the individual who is there to receive an education.
I taught for 34 years and still remember (both vividly and sadly) the day that a 16 year-old pierced and studded, green-haired student told me that I was the first teacher who saw past his fashion choices and responded to him warmly and generously as a person.
In sixteen years and likely more than 30 teachers, the only one? Pathetic.
Of course. I understand. The whole world will go to pieces if standards aren't upheld. In Japan more especially than elsewhere. But remember: Life is short. Why waste precious, finite time on things that do not matter?
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I know many couples in Canada (Canadian husband Japanese wife) who have parents and extended family living in Japan. Annual visits are common with these couples (some of whom have children and want them to know their grandparents, learn Japanese and spend the summer holidays there).
One Japanese woman in such a situation confided that she wished that she could travel elsewhere sometimes. The visits are not a holiday for her because she spends the whole time cooking, cleaning and caring for her elderly parents. Of course, she loves them and wants to see them; however, it's no vacation the way a trip to Hawaii might be. Like anyone else, she'd enjoy and would like to have--even needs--a vacation.
The person who suggested stopping in Hawaii on the way offers a great idea. But it's true. When family members live far away and the cost of visits is high, then sacrifices must be made. Those include a range of options: only one person goes, or if the parents are in advanced years (as seems to be the case in the article) then agree to fill the wife's bucket list after the parents die.
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Wait until these young women can ditch their jobs for the no-old-Christmas-cake-me marriage fantasy they've been fed. What will they do when their work hours extend to 24/7 with no respite during Golden/Silver/Obon/New Year breaks or any of the statutory holidays?
There's no "employer" as demanding as an infant, and sometimes J-hubby thinks he's married a lifetime care giver/woman at the back of the house enabling him to realize a Botchan life until the end of his days.
Funny how you often read of men losing their wives and talking of nothing but missing their cooking and care rather than being missed as remarkable and fascinating individuals.
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“You hear these government studies that say how busy teachers are…so why are they wasting energy checking and enforcing pointless things like this? Shouldn’t they have more faith in their students?”
Because, alas, the vast majority of teachers have something in their DNA which prompts them to compulsively waste energy checking and enforcing pointless things. Details about masks, shoes, hair cuts, hair ornaments, hemlines, stockings, piercings, hair dye, nail polish, make up.
Please, notice how many of the restrictions apply to females rather than males. Please, also consider how many of the world's most brilliant minds did not do well in school.
The inspirational, creative and intelligent teachers who do not waste their time on such drivel are rare. Each of us who has ever had one of those knows how blessed we were.
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Bravo! More creative enterprises such as this one ought to be encouraged. City governments and education programs could encourage younger people to apprentice alongside the women in order to keep the necessary skill sets alive. That's at least as valuable as an after school club or cram school.
My grandparents as well as aunts and uncles raised and butchered their own meat and sometimes supplemented the supply with game which they hunted. The taste can't touch anything sourced in the supermarket.
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Loneliness and the feeling of being unloved are terrible things to experience.
"Cooking, eating and talking with others will provide an opportunity (for seniors) to find friends who can support each other.
As a single person who has breakfast alone every day (except for occasional brunches with friends or when on holidays), I can vouch for the fact that doing so does not mean that I am lonely or feel unloved or find it a terrible experience. I don't look at breakfast as an opportunity for a support group experience.
In addition, I often eat lunch or dinner alone both in restaurants and at home. Again, I find nothing negative in dining solo. I am utterly content in my own company--sometimes more so than times when I join others who make a shared meal a disagreeable experience.
For people who prefer to join others to eat, fine. No problem. It's nice if they have an opportunity to do so. However, let's not imply that every person over a certain age who eats alone is a pitiable creature.
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Why does Japan need a 15 year gear period to reduce the tariffs on beef imports?
Am I missing something? Isn't Japan being asked to change? Won't it take longer than that to schedule all the pre-meeting meetings about the actual meetings necessary before any concrete action can be taken by the stakeholders?
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Dark nuts, have you had snow pile up to the second floor ? There are differing amounts of snow and different roofs requiring different approaches.
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No one has mentioned it, but why do men pick their nose while riding a train? If blowing your nose is considered gross and rude, doesn't the same apply to booger mining?
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To pay my own way enables me to maintain an equitable balance of power in the relationship without thinking that since he has paid he thinks he'll get laid. I don't like to attribute motives like that to other people, and this way I don't have to second guess whether or not he is after something.
If I am asking for advice or consulting the person in some way, I take the initiative to pay out of gratitude for his time and opinion on the matter.
If he expresses that he would like to pick up the cheque for some reason, I listen respectfully and usually accept. However, I make that acceptance conditional: I will accept the kindness provided that he will allow me to pay next time.
I like to keep things on an equal footing for both of us.
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Japan is starting to feel like a nanny state and all these numerous and extraneous announcements are friggin noise pollution, not to mention annoying as hell.
When has Japan not been a nanny state? Jomon Period?
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For many years I enjoyed the drive out to a local tree farm, chatting with the farmer and his son, finding the perfect tree, cutting it and taking it home in the car. The house was filled with the fragrance for the month of December and to Orthodox Christmas on January 7.
When I downsized from a house to a condo the strata rules prohibited trees which were not artificial on account of fire hazards and messes owners would make in the hallways dragging the trees out afterwards (all preventable with a little bit of common sense).
However, properly watered, three months after being cut a Noble, Grand, or Frasier fir won't shed nor will it burn if you put a match to the needles. It's still green! However, trees cut weeks before and kept in tree lots are another story and the needle-shedding Douglas which never lasts past 3 weeks under any circumstances are a potential danger.
I found it worth every bit of "hassle" involved. It's part of the process and tradition, like baking from scratch instead of buying or cleaning the house for New Year. More satisfying and gratifying if you put other things on pause and do it yourself. Of course, if for some reason you can't--buying something to stand in for the real thing or do it for you is better than nothing. I've chosen that option myself from time to time.
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Like most things, balance is the key...
Ah, yes. Balance. Balance in Japan? Where? On what occasion?
The idea that getting a possible terminal illness is a cause of trouble to someone else is just beyond my comprehension. And the thing that is really scary is that probably some people at the company do feel that way, that the ill person has caused trouble for them, instead of feeling compassion or sympathy.
So true. I'm sure the majority of the dead would still be bowing and apologizing profusely for having troubled anyone at the office if only they could speak.
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I have long held the belief (which I've not seen discussed anywhere) that some of ADHD is a direct result of children not having enough to do in terms of work that contributes to the family and society in which they live.
In non-technological societies children can function as adults as soon as they master the technology which can be as early as age 10. They can hunt by setting snares, gather, fetch water, look after younger siblings and so on.
In evolutionary terms a child's life of sitting in school from 3 to 18 and beyond is very recent. Even 100 years ago many children went to school from ages 6 to 12 and then went to work out of economic necessity. Before going to school they had to fill the wood box, care for the animals they owned, do regular chores and walk many miles to get anywhere. They were not sitting in a desk and pushing pencils or exercising their thumbs on a gaming device.
I think part of the problem with ADHD diagnoses (in addition to diet which sf2k mentions) is that the human mind and body are not designed for the world we live in now. Big pharma, however, loves it.
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Why do the royal females in Japan dress like grandmothers when they are young? And why do they dress like airline attendants of yesteryear on adulthood?
I don't understand why they aren't showcasing the fascinating fabrics as well as the top-tier and up-and-coming designers of Japan in their apparel. It might do much to revive the textile industry and highlight more designers globally.
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I would suggest that a mindfulness practice or a meditation practice or a combination of the two likely affects behavior directly. Gradually the practitioner moves into alignment with the higher mind or a higher purpose.
Also, there is nothing wrong with having or making money. Corporations do not have to be evil empires. They can do a great deal of good in the world. Exploiting others to have or make money is a separate issue and clearly wrong.
I also believe that there is nothing inherently wrong in a teacher of meditation or mindfulness asking for money for instruction. In general, people don't value what they don't have to pay for. If it costs them something, that changes.
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Even with laws there could be problems, kurisupisu. Laws must be enforced for them to have value.
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That's correct, Trevor Peace. The Art Gallery of Greater Victoria or AGGV does have such a collection and regularly showcases segments of its extensive holdings. They have also brought in exceptional collections such as the 2014 kimono exhibit.
But before the monitor gets me for straying off topic, Japanese artist Senju Hiroshi, whose work The Art of Waterfall I viewed recently, speaks of beauty as a spiritual experience. Spiritual and physical malaise are often linked; therefore it makes sense to research the effect of regular exposure to art on health and wellness.
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Fat. Sugar. Chemicals. Caffeine.
Ho!Ho!Ho! & Happy Humbug!
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