Seavey comments

Sorry the normal should have been in italic not quotes...

It should have been non-existant. Nothing I said hinted it was normal. It is simply world's apart.

Lying is lying, especially when it comes to rape.

Lying for sympathy and lying to frame someone are quite different.

In fact, she still maintains that she was raped in her native country, but by one man rather than a gang rape. Enhancing a story is still lying, but its still world's apart from trying to drag somebody down.

The thing is though, in many. many of the cases I know of, the ex-wife IS a headcase

Sounds like a LOT of headcases. I am not in the market to believing there are so many actual headcases in Japan. If there were, I would not be living here.

My usual response to such claims is: cultural bias. And its something any gaijin should dispense with when deciding to marry a Japanese and live in this country, if not before, such as when making the decision to ride bareback despite not knowing a thing about the methodology of such practices.

The job, it is what it is..

That does not make the conditions fair or right. If it did, then a slave plantation would be all right if the slaves were smiling.

Well, I never believed the "broken nose" bit. People say "You broke my nose" when they get punched in the nose. Blame Hollywood.

But blurry survellience video is not about to convince me there was no gash on his head. I will wait until the officers take the stand, because eyewitness testimoney beats the hell out of blurry survellience video when it comes to describing injuries.

That's unrelated to the first statement.

Its sort of like you did not read my whole post.

Let TEPCO go bust. Then buy it all for far less.

evidence to show she has already lied about rape in another instance

It is a world of difference to lie about rape to get a visa (prosecuting no one) and actively going after a specific individual for rape while possessing forensic evidence.

Further, it is not open season to rape liars.

made a monumentally stupid monitered call to a jailhouse which apprently removed any doubts prosecuters had about her intial testimony.

What I find interesting that when the possiblities of such a call are 1) fraud and 2) a affirmation of a desire for revenge, somehow 1 is automatic.

As ever, I find it incredible that side issues outside of the actual event in question play such a role in undertanding the event while one of only two people in the room gets by with a three word explanation, "It was consensual" and is not required to present a full story.

Regardless, if there is a likely story for Strauss-Kahn, I would love to hear it. I bet you can't dream one up.

I've no sympathy for either of them.

Strange. You have no sympathy if one was raped or the other had false charges against him. I wonder what either one did you?

The great thing about concessions concerning the missle shield is that it looks like we really did Russia a favor for calling off the tiger....but the tiger is in fact made of paper!

Often times what the Japanese mother or father has done to the foreign spouse has taken the kids from them and has denied them any and all access to the children in all shapes and forms

Yeah, but why? Each case is different. Talking about this in general terms is really not all that helpful.

You see, sometimes when a parent is denied all visitation, I agree. And sometimes, I don't. And having authorities interfere sometimes helps, but sometimes makes it worse. Its ALWAYS a mess in general. Therefore, I usually just side with the mother, that way, I can be sure the child sees his or her mother, at least.

My advice to the men? Appeal to the mother of your children the best way you know how. Go through her mother if you have to. Hint: Kneel and beg if you have to. Praise her even if a lie. Admit your own faults (should be easy). Make the appeal not for yourself, but for the kids, etc.

I gotta say, it is annoying to have people come here, make a life here, get married here, have kids here, but refuse to learn or play by the rules here.

I am not totally on the Japanese side, but I am certainly not totally on the foreign side either. Especially the men. They choose their wife, they choose to impregnate her, then down the road they figure they made a mistake. And most I know will happily drag the kids away from their mom, but groan on and on about how unfair it is to take the kids away from their father!

This subject is a mess. Always has been. And 9 times out of 10 its the man that screwed everything up from step one, but he does anything and everything but admit it. Cause if he did admit it, we would not be hearing about it!

The easiest way to ensure you see your kids is DON'T GET DIVORCED! You made your bed. Sleep in it!

I know a guy who knocked his girlfriend up like a complete moron. Totally his fault. And from there, he commits screw up after screw up. Then he was whining to me about how he was afraid that his wife would abduct the kid and how maybe he should do it first, and how he never should have married her. WHAT! Go back to step one!

I tell you, I am al lot more inclined to talk about the Japanese men who got custody ovet their foreign wife. Its far easier to imagine a woman having a case.

imap2223, please don't bore me with your side of your personal story. Your wife is not here to defend herself. I am not taking your word for it.

Get your facts straight before you calls us "Combative".

You sure like to say stuff like "Get your facts straight", and "You speak too often without knowledge". Sounds combative to me. Its also annoying as hell Mr. 95 percent.

I know of many cases.

Yet it seems few names and as many links.

Damn it imap. From your own site, crnjapan.net

Mothers granted child custody in 80% of court decisions

Yet you said 95 percent! And I agreed. Well, I don't have a problem with 80 percent either. In fact, its even more reasonable than before!

Do more research before "popping off" and calling us Whiners.

Don't put words in my mouth. Seriously. There is a difference between someone who is whining and "a whiner". Of course, you may have a legit reason to whine. I don't know. But I will be damned if I am going to take your word for it.

I got the shaft even when I presented all kinds of evidence about her being an unfit mother.

Every time a divorce comes up, that is the story from the guy. Every freaking time.

And I wonder if it ever occured to you combative foreign men that it might have been best to go with the flow, instead of fight the wind? So many of you go in making a battle, and when its all over, you expect a hug from those you battled! It does not work that way with Japanese women.

Most of the time what I see is that the foreign man has pissed the woman off so much before that divorce comes, and its the root of all. Doubly so if he instigates the divorce. And then they expect to walk out with the kids, and fight tooth and nail for it.

I don't know your case. But most of the time it seems that foreign man could have gotten to see his kids if he were just calm and reasonable instead of making a protracted battle and yelling "unfit mother" at the same women HE chose to marry and impregnate!

Humility just comes too damned late for most foreign men I know.

Do some research for yourself before saying we are whiners.

I have done reasearch. But you cannot even read a post properly. Never said "whiners". And its a classic example of a combative attitude to tell me I said something I didn't say!

In the case of foreigners in Japan married to Japanese, in 99% of the cases the Japanese is given FULL custody .

You say there are lots of links to this "fact." Give me one. Its your contention. Back it up.

Second, between Japanese themselves, in 95% of the cases, the woman is given custody over the father and all visitation rights are granted by the woman.

Yup. That is what my previous research confirms. Guess what. It sounds about right to me. I know precious few men capable of raising children. I know many who claim otherwise, most are foreigners, and I don't believe them, no matter how much they whine.

That said, most I know should certainly have visitation rights. But they so often basically waive those by up and leaving the country. They are real dedicated to their kids, unless it means having to tough it out in Japan!

I don't call them judges. They are pompous people who just don't care.

Well I am sure that part is true.

So was he the snitch or not?

This guy is such a snake.

As soon as he has to explain in detail his version of what happened and attempt to fit it to the facts we know, it his credibility that will sink even lower than Diallo's, and he knows it. That is why he fights tooth and nail to avoid have to explain anything.

Previously he went from diplomatic immunity to "Oh, wait, no. I meant to say consensual sex!" Right. I am very much looking forward to his explanation. I could use a laugh.

But then, he will probably just settle out of court if it comes to that. Like I said, he does not want to explain himself. That is because he can't.

Japan's domestic laws on visitation do certainly seem to be a problem.

I am not sure if accepting the Hague convention will fix that or not.

One problem I always have with this discussion is that while it may be true that Japan has not "returned" a child to the U.S., I need to know specific cases where they "should" have done so, or its hard to take fault with Japan. And no, a person talking about their own personal case does not convince me. Every parent that did not get custody whines about it, and no idea if they have a legit complaint or not.

That said, I am not going to declare that Franchesca should have custody with her side of the story only. But I have a serious problem that she has no visitation rights even. That is so outrageous that I actually want to contact her ex myself.

I also don't know how many kids America returned to Japan. And I look at the Chris Savoie case and it seems to me that the U.S. and the Hague Convention have problems of their own.

Virtuoso, if that was an attempt to answer my question, it was the wrong question.

Of course we all know there was a video. But how did Sarkozy know al-Jazeera had it? Why single out al-Jazeera if everybody has it? Why suspect al-Jazeera of planning to broadcast it, but no one else?

Something is not right here.

So if al-Jazeera has not broadcast the video, how in blazes does Sarkozy know about it?

Imagine having enough money to make people say whatever you want.

I am not sure who has done their job better; al-Quaida, the government, or the MSM. But at the very least, they have all worked well together to create an unnecessary state of panic.

if those are the rules thats how it is.

Sorry, but if justice, fairness and freedom mean nothing to you, and it would seem it does by that statement, you are going to get a lot of thumbs down.

A statement like that is a large chunk of the reason the Nazis could take over Germany. And I tell you, one of the reasons so some Jews could escape death there was because they did not have fingerprinting machines and facial recognition software. Imagine if they did. Now realize that a government like that will appear again in a first world nation, because history proves they always do. It sure as hell is not like Japan has a clean slate for 100 years, is it? People still living remember how people were summarily executed not nearly long enough ago.

I guess I just have a problem paying $45,000 per year for a convict.

Then you should have a bigger problem with the fact that America also has one of the highest prison populations in the world. Part of the reason for that is that damn near everything is a crime in America these days. What was overlooked 30 years ago because it actually bothered no one is now a crime against morality or some such crap.

If you are so gosh darn worried about money, execution is the tip of the iceberg.

It shouldn't be.

Darn right it shouldn't be! They should be alive and working to pay for their upkeep as well as their trials!

Dead men don't work a lick! And it costs money to bury them!

"Tit for tat" is regretable, but in the long run we live with it (what else are we going to do?)

Flip those governments the bird.

This is nothing to do with security. This country is safe enough. This is about making a buck. These people don't give a damn if safety is improved or decreased. All they care about is the money. They belong in jail for being the REAL danger to the nation.

When discussing human life, is it too much to ask people to have the class not to bring up tax money?

As if far more of your precious tax money were not being thrown down the drain all the time anyway.

Every day I don't hear news about cops from other countries pushing girls over and lifting their skirts

Every day I don't hear news about cops in Japan doing this either. In fact, this the first time ever.

Is it an epidemic already?

Its a trick question. Of course media contributes to violence.

But that contribution is entirely erased by the greater amounts that it satiates the desire to commit real world violence.

Its undeniable that first world countries have less violence in society these days. To blame media for what little is left is silly at best.

Cletus is correct. This would go back to standard rates of a few grand.

I still await the motive for this one. Somehow I don't think we will ever hear it, nor will the defense of post-traumatic stress disorder be considered for even a New York minute.

With any luck, he will get the seat, and diplomatic immunity with it.

China, Saudi Arabia, Iran, Iraq,

There you go. Anybody that wants more killing now knows where their brothers are. Don't waste your breath whining. Just go to any one of their embassies, espouse your brotherly love for their values, and apply for residency. Why wait, when you could live amongst people who share your values in mere months?