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Posted in: Separate bedrooms best for a good night's sleep, expert advises See in context

This is chauvinist drivel and would be a best seller in 1950s America. This writer assumes a "nagging" wife causing distress for the "poor" husband - so he escapes to a separate bedroom, so he doesn't have to listen to her anymore. As this is now the 21st Century, I'm amazed that this writing is being taken seriously. I understand there are couples who do sleep separately in Japan. Coming from North America, this does seem something quite old-fashioned - what one set of my grandparents did. But, whatever a couple decides is fine, but I don't like the reasons this article gives for sleeping separately. This writer recommends foregoing greater communication with a spouse (wife - as the article appears to be directed at men) to have a more meaningful relationship. Instead it continues the old trend of always putting work first before family - no matter what - so what the marriage really is is just a serious of dutiful obligations without the feeling of joy, building a common dream, or deep love that makes a relationship meaningful.

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Posted in: To ask or not to ask: The etiquette and law of using convenience store restrooms in Japan See in context

I've never seen a big chain convenience store (Lawson, 7-11, Family Mart, Circle K etc.) that required you to announce or ask to use the restroom. Some people do, but most of the time staff seem too busy or simply don't really care.

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Posted in: Japanese school uniforms can be an expensive hassle for parents See in context

Night high school is the rare exception in Japan and not the norm. At my high school, uniforms are a little tent like and strictly adhered to.

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Posted in: Will 'strategic special zones' turn into hotbeds of prostitution? See in context

This is a myopic policy and does little to stem the falling population in Japan. Get the least skilled - i.e. least economically and politically powerful type of immigrant in the country - so they pose the least threat to the establishment. Most people except for the up 1/3 demographic can afford domestic helpers, so this new immigration program will not help the majority of hard working citizens. Again again again again again if you want to helping women reenter the workforce after having a child do something about the staggering waiting lists at daycare centers. Also make daycare much more affordable. This type of potential exploitive labor program will neither improve access to daycare or housekeeping help or it's overall affordability. The only way forward for Japan is skilled labor immigrants with meaningful long term roles in companies in leadership positions and boosting the IT sector. I do not want to see skilled IT people from other countries continually railroaded into telemarketing jobs selling products and services from Japanese companies overseas.

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Posted in: Hyperloop pushes dream of low-cost futuristic transport See in context

It will be expensive to build and maintain. Japan needs to spend this kind of money on other things like adequate daycare for example. Trains are already fast enough.

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Posted in: Explosive seniors who erupt in murderous rages See in context

A few examples to try and make a sensationalized story.

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Posted in: Advice columnist shuts down mother who doesn’t want to give son permission to marry See in context

dentook2001, Your description of the Japanese wife sounds like a marriage on the way out. Most international couples I know are quite enthusiastic about English learning for their children...

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Posted in: 'Mistress market' expanding in these hard times See in context

I'm not really seeing the hard data in this article to back the headlines claim that the mistress market is expanding in these hard times.

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Posted in: Celebrities back Jennifer Aniston's tabloid takedown See in context

Quite frankly haven't really heard much about her or any of the slanering. Thought she wasn't really famous anymore and sort of retired. Paparazzi problems must be awful, but now she must take the consequences for drawing even more attention herself.

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Posted in: More girls turning to sugar daddies to wine and dine them See in context

The title of the article is a bait and switch. Where is the data, the discussion, or stats backing up the headlines claims of "increasing numbers"?

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Posted in: One-third of men destined to be lifelong singles See in context

As usual, this type of article is male-centric. Simple math will also tell you at approximately 1/3 of Japanese women will also stay single for their life. Basically, if people don't want to get married that their business. If they want to be married and can't because of society money problems, that is an issue to worry about. The main problem though is the falling birthrate OR low numbers immigrants - immigrants presumably in sufficient numbers to make up for this shortfall.

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Posted in: Osaka Prefectural Police neglected investigating 2,300 cases, including homicides See in context

How do these stats compare with big cities say int the usa?

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Posted in: At old-style drinking places, the quest for Showa-era nostalgia clashes with reality See in context

The writer of the article said the tuna was very cheap, but then concludes at the end that customers are likely to be overcharged at such places. Are they cheap or expensive places to eat? I'm not clear from this article what was meant... Why oh why doesn't the writer mention cigarette smoke? Something ravished during the showa era and distained in modern society...

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Posted in: Japan's porn industry apologises over coercion claims See in context

Asking producers to comply. That's it. No inspection or oversight or reports required to ensure changes have been made. Lazy, shameful, non-action.

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Posted in: Apple makes Siri smarter, rolls out software improvements See in context

Nobody wants increased search capabilities and Siri app functions except for those who are on the road a lot and those who are visually impaired. Everyone wants an intelligent chat bot that you see in sci fi movies - something which will never be possible for at least another 100 years...

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Posted in: Missing 7-year-old boy left in mountains by parents as punishment See in context

This is not what parents do in Japan. This is excessive and misguided corporal punishment. Would like to know the full story on this one, and sadly suspect the parents thought about abandoning their child altogether and had a change of heart. But, it ended up being too late.

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Posted in: Newly hired Japanese list 5 business manners they find unnecessary See in context

Actually savethegaijin, employers in the states have been known to do harass employees call in by phone. In the NYC where I worked as a public school teacher, I had one school Principle that accused teachers of lying after hearing them on the phone and giving them a warning. The union pushed to have this system eliminated for this reason, and now there is a log on system where you register your absence as soon as possible online in the morning or ideally the night before. This system also does not require you to give a reason for absence - you just have a bank of days you can use now that are your personal days to use for personal things or sickness.

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Posted in: Anime talent agency rejects voice actress applicants who have appeared in porn See in context

The article implies working in the AV industry is "breaking the law." This is a false claim.

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Posted in: McNugget makeover? McDonald's tests 'simpler' recipe See in context

The story didn't mention changes to the chicken ingredients, which if I'm not mistaken may still include cartilledge, beak, head including Bill, and organs that usually only go into stuffing or on yakitori sticks etc. Just fewer chemical additives. So, I'm not sure.

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Posted in: X-shaped four-person tent lets you and your friends camp together, sleep separately See in context

Why do you need privacy when you're camping? Just a question...

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Posted in: Monks delivered via Amazon as role of Japanese temples fade See in context

shonnanb, yes you can have your ashes spread, but there are logistical problems. My wife's grandfather was buried at sea as per his wishes, but his older daughter still insisted on a regular open coffin funeral followed by the older brother flipping the switch for cremation followed by the various follow up vigils and auntie's insistance on making an annual pilgramage to the sea where his ashes were spread. Unless you get a will done in writing with a lawyer stipulating everything (very rare in Japan), someone will insist on all the bells and whistles that tend to emphasize death over life in family gatherings.

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Posted in: Frogs' popularity set to soar See in context

Once frogs disappear from this Earth, I heard human life is screwed.

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Posted in: In 'Star Wars,' classical music has rare giant impact See in context

Although the score of Star Wars sounds outstanding, John Williams borrowed heavily from Gustav Holst's "The Planets" symphony.

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Posted in: Survey shows most Japanese employees don’t like Western-style work socials See in context

You could probably reverse this completely. "Survey shows most Western employees don’t like Japanese-style work socials." The endless speeches are what kill me. The food is usually mediocre with an emphasis placed on the drinking. I actually find at this kind of party - I don't end up eating enough. I actually eat more at Western style socials because at least there is a food table, and you can order something like reasonably priced pizza and reasonably sized pizza if you want extra food...

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Posted in: Japan says U.N. envoy retracts remarks on schoolgirl sex See in context

The lives of Japanese teens who are in high schools is very regulated in Japan. I heard that compensated dated was much more common in the 80s, but the kinds of opportunities for girls to date in high school that exist in Western countries simply don't exist in Japan. There are no school dances, homes are often multi-generational, and kids are often at school clubs all weekend. High school kids are regarded more as maturing children than as young adults. I would say the problem exists, but that its number couldn't be quite the high.

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Posted in: 6 types of Japanese people you’ll meet while living in Japan See in context

Japanese neighbors blank each other too.

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Posted in: Husbands on receiving end of domestic abuse from wives See in context

If you have a wife that commits DV against a man when she has a panic attack related to unresolved childhood issues, it can take literally several hours for her to calm down. When there's a mental health issue involved there is an additional reluctance to report the incident as you are put in the position of often being the sole caregiver. It's hard to walk out on someone when they need help - your help even when it hurts you...

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Posted in: Why married couples in Japan must have same surname See in context

Actually, my wife who is Japanese said that if she kept her own last name (I'm American), she would have to appear before a judge to get approval to keep her last name for personal or professional reasons.

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Posted in: Rabid animal rights activists go head-to-head with tradition See in context

Whose rabid the hunters or concerned citizens?

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Posted in: Zero applicants for plan to promote women at work See in context

The problem is not wives who are sitting around lazy. It is the extreme pressure on women to be Stepford wives. Non-working mothers are expected to babysit her aging parents and in-laws, prepare perfect meals, do laundry everyday, take a job in her kids PTA (the jobs are surprisingly time consuming in Japan), take a job in her neighborhood (there are time-consuming neighborhood jobs which make all private home ownership feel more like a coop), and not to mention required volunteerism in the form if all day attendance at her child's sporting events. These kinds of social obligations really drive against any passion most women have for a career after marriage.

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