Victoria Maude comments

Posted in: Gays celebrate landmark U.S. Supreme Court rulings on same-sex marriage See in context

@ The Chronic - oh yes, because straight couples never do that, and if they did, we'd ostracise them too, right?

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Posted in: What do you think about those people who are holding parties to celebrate the death of former British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher? See in context

It's one thing to hate her when she was alive and in power for her policies, but it's another thing to take joy in a fellow human's death. She was old and hadn't been in power for a while. You might have hated her, but throwing a party to celebrate a woman's death is just tasteless, in my opinion.

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Posted in: First day on the job See in context

It's a ceremony, guys. The standard dress code for a ceremony is usually black suit and tie.

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Posted in: First gay wedding held at Tokyo Disney Resort See in context

So what you are saying is, "I defend your right to express my opinion."

I never said that. Please don't put words in my mouth. I support your right to free speech, but I also have the right to find the opinion you stated through such free speech terrible, and am allowed to use my freedom of speech to express that sentiment. If you express an opinion on a public forum, be prepared to defend it. If you want others to agree with your opinion, you'll have to express it only around like minded people.

Also, I have seen no bullying on here, apart from people saying that the women in the photo are in some way disgusting or repulsive ("eew", "yuck", "oddball", etc.). If the kids at my schools said words like that (kimoi, kisshoi, hen, etc.), they'd be accused of bullying.

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Posted in: First gay wedding held at Tokyo Disney Resort See in context

All those condemning those with different opinions, are just as guilty of being intolerant...

Opinions are not immune from criticism. You have free speech, and so do I. I will defend your right to express your opinion, no matter how much I disagree with it, but you can't just say "it's just my opinion" and expect others to just leave it alone like it's sacred or something. You said it, you get to deal with the reaction that it brings.

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Posted in: First gay wedding held at Tokyo Disney Resort See in context

when are the heteros getting their marriage parade?

Everyday is a heterosexual parade. Are they allowed to flaunt their heterosexuality in public? For instance, hand holding, kissing, and such.

Under Japanese law, homosexuals cannot marry. Therefore Disney is condoning breaking the law to children.

Anyone can buy a wedding dress and have a wedding ceremony, heterosexual or straight. Wedding ceremonies do not legally marry the couples. All marriages require a marriage license to make them valid, and yes, you are correct that that is not legal in Japan yet. No-one involved in the TDL ceremony broke the law, they simply held a wedding ceremony to show that they are married in their eyes, as well of those of their families and friends. Disney is not condoning breaking any laws, they are simply helping people of all kinds experience joy at their park.

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Posted in: First gay wedding held at Tokyo Disney Resort See in context

Ok, let's say you are right. and just quick question: how do you see the feature look like if this keep going then, say another 50 years?

Not quite sure what you mean. What will happen 50 years in the future if gays continue getting married? Well, probably a lot more money being put into the economy by the divorce business, added revenue from weddings and people being happy. If we extend it to gay adoption, then probably more children being placed with loving homes. Gay people don't make others around them gay, so the myth of homosexuality spreading like a virus is pretty much a nonissue. If it were, it would have started a long time ago, since homosexuality has been around since the dawn of time.

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Posted in: First gay wedding held at Tokyo Disney Resort See in context

No where in time has the world and people's morals and values been more scr*wed up than it is now

Whose morals and values would those be? Yours? To me, morality means not killing, not stealing, not hating anyone, not destroying other people's things, all that jazz. Pretty similar to the Biblical ten commandments, even though I'm not religious. I guess the difference between me and you is that I value everyone's capacity to love, and feel like the freedom I enjoy as a (normally) heterosexual person should be extended to everyone. Gay relationships have been around as long as man has been, so if you think that the good old days were the better time, then you must realize that not a lot has changed. All that has changed is that people don't have to hide themselves anymore. If a man is not judged for holding a woman's hand in public, and vice versa, while a man and a man or a woman and a woman are, then something is wrong. "Judge not lest ye be judged", right?

Society is constantly changing and evolving. Homosexuals have always been around, in multiple species. They're just more open now. Let them be, and they'll let you be.

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Posted in: First gay wedding held at Tokyo Disney Resort See in context

There are a lot of issues with redefining marriage. It is the children whose rights are ignored. Every child has a right to their father and mother.

Shall we outlaw divorce in marriages where children are concerned, then? Even if let's say one parent is being abusive towards the other and the child? Since children have a right to a mother and father. No?

I have a friend raised by two mothers who is by far one of the best people I know because his moms wanted him, treasured him, and raised him right, and then I know lots of people from traditional father and mother homes who are so screwed up for various reasons. The children were unplanned so they grew up feeling like they weren't wanted, the parents weren't prepared for kids so they didn't know how to raise them well, all sorts of different reasons.

Having a father and mother is not a magical recipe for a balanced, lovely child, and having two fathers and two mothers does not mean that you will turn out gay or damaged in some way. Look past the rose-tinted glasses of "tradition" and check out the real world.

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Posted in: First gay wedding held at Tokyo Disney Resort See in context

Gay marriage? Name it something else.

I love this. It just screams "separate but equal", which I'm sure that we all know used to be part of the black civil rights movement. Let the black children go to school, but make sure it's not the same school as the one for the white children. If you're going to let some consenting adults marry, you have to let all consenting adults marry. Equality for all and such.

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Posted in: Student commits suicide after being beaten by school basketball coach See in context

The suicide problem among youth is by no means limited to Japan, or this current teenage generation. When I was in high school, I repeatedly had suicidal thoughts, simply because at my young age, I hadn't been around long enough to know that the future would be different. The only life I knew was childhood and teenagehood, so little things seemed like a huge deal, since I didn't have much perspective. This is something that parents need to be aware of with their kids: a lot of kids will experience suicidal feelings. Teenagers are dramatic and emotional, and have been killing themselves for any number of reasons since time began, I'm sure. There's no real concrete cause to blame, it's sadly human nature, I think. If I were ever to have teenagers, I would be on high watch for signs of depression or self-harm.

I feel like long before this boy killed himself, he must have shown physical signs that he was being beaten by his coach, or been displaying the symptoms of depression. When my parents found out what I was thinking about, they talked to me for a long time about what I was feeling, and checked in with me daily to see how I was doing. I wasn't put on meds, or sent to a shrink, just reassured that I was loved and that I was always welcome to talk about anything. Obviously, in this case, the abusive coach was an instigator, but I can't help but feel like this boy didn't have a watchful support system at home to help him and that is the saddest part to me.

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Posted in: Which English words or expressions really annoy you? See in context

Any variation on the word r etard. We have more than enough words in the English language for you to describe exactly what negative sentiment you're feeling, I think we can stop saying that word now.

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Posted in: 'Les Miserables' relies on close-ups for emotional punch See in context

Seeing this tomorrow on a Christmas date! <3 Very much looking forward to it.

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Posted in: 2 bodies found in freezer at dried seafood store in Shizuoka See in context

Wow. Sounds like a CSI episode. :( I hope they find whoever did it.

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Posted in: Last chance to win millions See in context

I'll personally never understand throwing your money at a lottery, but if it makes people happy, then go for it! My very money conscious Japanese boyfriend shocked me the other day by pulling out a few lottery tickets he had purchased, and I remember him buying them at Luminarie as well. This is a guy who puts aside half of his pay cheque every month and currently has almost $300,000 saved up. The way he explained it was that the tickets are cheaper than what you'd pay for a train fare, and if you lose, the money goes to a good charity. If you win, bonus for you!

Usually with huge prize lotteries, there's only one prize. Sixty eight prizes of over 400 million yen is a pretty tempting thing! I don't think this is a case of sheep mentality, I think it's a yearly tradition for many people, and the prizes are absolutely tangible! Better than the big American lottos where only one ticket wins the big prize.

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Posted in: Obama may struggle to deliver on massacre rhetoric See in context

Arming everyone is not the answer. Investing in accessible mental health facilities and other social reforms is. Just look at the article about the 11 year old bringing a gun to school because he was scared after the Newtown shootings. As I've stated on other articles, Canada has more restrictive gun laws, and far fewer cases like this. Americans need to look at what other countries are doing and try to apply those ideas to their own society.

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Posted in: Boy, 11, brings gun to class in Utah See in context

What if one of those other kids who had a gun waved in their face by the kid in this article had had the same idea, and theirs was loaded? Instead of arming ourselves, we really need to find the root causes of violence and work to solve the problem from there.

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Posted in: Nationalist jailed for hate campaign against firm that used S Korean actress in ads See in context

It's kind of nice to see Japan taking a strong stance against it, although we don't know the exact details of what the man said or how he said it. Japan doesn't need the Korean media portraying Japan as a country that gives its extreme nationalists a slap on the wrist for their actions. The ones I'm worried about more are the groups that are protesting local Korean events and groups. I have a Korean girl in one of my classes, and while no-one seems to be treating her any differently, I'm interested to know if her parents have faced any discrimination from the community.

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Posted in: What single women in their 40s want out of life See in context

As a woman, I can say that at least for me, looking good is more about a competition with other women than impressing men. When you go out for the day, you're unlikely to have men you don't know approaching you trying to start a romantic relationship (unless you're at a bar or some such place), but you will always be looking at other women and comparing yourself to them. Being less attractive than others makes you feel self-conscious about yourself.

I for one see nothing wrong with staying single and childless if it makes you happy, though I don't think one should leach off their family either. If you're single without kids, that means that all the money you make after taxes stays with you! That should be more than enough to support yourself and your parents!

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Posted in: 17-year-old dead, 16-year-old seriously injured following police chase See in context

Volland --

We're not talking about other countries where a single scooter might be an entire family's only method of transportation. We're talking about Japan, which is most definitely not the only country to have safety laws like this. And we're talking about two youth, who most likely were not sharing the cycle because they had no other method of transportation. This is Japan, land of thousands of trains, taxis, etc. If this were a third-world country, the law and I might agree with you, but it isn't. The laws are the way they are for a reason: safety. Had the boys been riding the bike correctly, it's likely that neither of them would be dead right now.

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Posted in: Hollywood responds to deadly school shooting by pulling films See in context

I would trust guns in the hands of law abiding citizens more than in the hands of the police.

I don't trust guns in the hand of law-abiding citizens either, unfortunately. There is just so much that can go wrong when one has a gun. The number of stories I've of completely needless incidents is terrifying. For instance, little kids getting a hold of guns and bringing them to school for show and tell, or children being shot by their own families because they were mistaken for skunks. I feel far less safe when I know that anyone has a gun, since I feel like my chances of being hurt accidentally are far higher than my chances of being intentionally shot. No-one intends for these accidents to happen, but they do, and the consequences are lethal.

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Posted in: Man kills mother, then 26 at Connecticut school, including 20 kids See in context

Being Canadian, I honestly can't comprehend American gun laws. The argument that if they restrict guns, the populace will be vulnerable to criminals and the like just doesn't seem to apply in other countries. In Canada, I don't know a single person who owns a gun, unless they live out in the country or use it for hunting. People just don't see it as necessary. Yes, we absolutely still have gun violence, but it's nowhere near like what it is in the States. When it does happen, it's usually restricted to crime groups (ex. hits, drug deals, etc.). Yes, absolutely still dangerous to the public, but I have never felt like I needed to have a gun to protect myself while going out anywhere.

Japan, same story. No-one here has a gun, just the yakuza, maybe, and they're not likely to be a part of my daily life. You might have the right to bear arms, but that doesn't mean that you should. Something needs to change in the American way of thinking.

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Posted in: School shooting victims were shot multiple times See in context

Kind of tired of hearing the video game excuse whipped out time after time. When are we going to start looking at the mental health issues going on in the world? Video games might be a symptom, but they are not the cause. Hundreds of thousands of people play video games without experiencing a single homicidal thought, because they are mentally healthy. Just like people who watch slasher movies can go their whole lives without slashing anyone, as they mentally can separate fiction from reality. Anyone who can't do that has something wrong in their heads (probably a lack of empathy caused by a sociopathic condition), and should receive the help they need before something like this happens. Don't blame the symptom, find and treat the root cause.

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Posted in: Royal prank call presenters get death threats See in context

Yes, let's avenge a death with another death! The great circle of... death.

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Posted in: China marks 75th anniversary of Nanjing Massacre See in context

I understand the fear of children hating themselves or their nationality due to learning about their history, but that just means that it needs to be taught carefully. It wasn't until university that I learned about the Canadian residential school system, in which thousands of Native Canadian children were beaten, sterilized, and killed. After learning about it, I went through a fairly substantial crisis of mind, as I couldn't understand why I hadn't been taught about such a horrific part of my country's history long before then.

It has to be taught, but at the same time, the children have to be told that none of it is in any way their fault, and it cannot be undone. All that can be done is to learn from it and make sure it doesn't happen again. That in itself is a great lesson for children to learn.

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Posted in: 17-year-old dead, 16-year-old seriously injured following police chase See in context

Volland -

Yeah, because 6 people is totally safe in any country. If the machine wasn't built for it, don't put extra people on, it's pretty simple. If the bike had a designated passenger seat, then two people is fine under the law, I feel like. I once road on the back of my host father's Harley down in Kagoshima, and there was no problem, because I was sitting on a second seat. What the kids were riding was probably not meant to be ridden by two people, and thus, it is illegal. If a second rider goes flying off the back of a bike while doing a sharp turn and slams into someone else's car, that's a big problem. I think you can see why it is illegal to ride vehicles in a way that they were not meant to be ridden.

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Posted in: Are you proud of being whatever your nationality is, or don't you think about it one way or another? See in context

Especially since living in Japan for decades may make you feel Japan is somehow your "nation", but it will never truly make you Japanese.

I don't see why it can't be. There are some non ethnically Japanese people living in Japan longer than they lived in another country. If you've got the passport, are you not Japanese? It might be true that native Japanese people might never consider you Japanese, but I feel like that sentiment is starting to die out as more and more foreign born people are taking out citizenship. I'm Canadian, and such a huge amount of our population are immigrants, most people don't even bother wondering if you're "really" Canadian or not. That Asian man living next to you might have four generations of family born in Canada, while the blonde girl next door actually just immigrated from Sweden. I wouldn't start telling people that identify with Japan and have gone through the steps to become Japanese that they aren't.

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Posted in: Are you proud of being whatever your nationality is, or don't you think about it one way or another? See in context

I used to feel proud to be Canadian, but after living abroad, I realized that I don't have much to be proud of, nor does any other nation. All countries have done terrible things, either to their own people or others, so I find it much more comforting to consider myself a world citizen as others have stated, as it means that I can just try to live the best life possible without feeling weighed down by any semblance of nationalistic feeling. I actually quite enjoy feeling stateless. I can go anywhere and become whoever I want to be. It's very liberating.

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Posted in: 17-year-old dead, 16-year-old seriously injured following police chase See in context

Why is it so hard to believe that the police are genuinely not at fault for the accident? Until we have more details, let's refrain from blaming anyone and call it what it is: a tragic accident that could have been prevented. I don't think any cop relishes in having been part of a chase that killed a kid, and I'm sure they blame themselves. No-one forced the boys to run, and the police were doing their job. If it comes out that the police were on their tail so closely that the boys lost control of the bike, then we can look into the police behavior.

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Posted in: Girl hit by train may have committed suicide due to bullying, say police See in context

I was bullied horribly all through my childhood, but I had parents who made sure that I knew that I had a strong support system behind me. So strong that they pulled me out of school when it got too ridiculous, just so I could be protected. Sure, the school is responsible too for allowing the bullying (I work in the school system here. No matter how many useless surveys they do, I still see it happen right in front of the teachers), but how disconnected from your family did this girl have to be to think that suicide was the only way out? When I was bullied, my parents checked in with me every day, and knew all my bullies names. They called their parents on a weekly basis, even if those parents didn't want to hear it. They were in the school all the time complaining that things weren't getting any better. They made sure that I knew that whatever the bullies said to hurt me wasn't true. I can't help but feel like this poor girl wasn't getting any of that at home, which would definitely be part of her problem.

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