‘I love you but I hate you.’ What to do when you can’t stand your long-term partner

Hate is a strong word to use in this case. Isn't it?

It sounds like a top 40s song to me.

her 40-year marriage to actor Christopher Guest

When you have two visionaries, like fire and ice, you need something in the middle, like lukewarm water.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lHohVNaxJ-M

Before settling down with Nigel, Jamie Lee Curtis was one of Adam Ant's conquests. Ant people are the warriors! Ant music is the banner!

No hate is the appropriate word to use. Get that hate out. I had a complete gut full of my ex no compromise behavior were I had to move out got a divorce and start . I been working in Japan for three winters. I move to Japan on a permanent basis started a relationship. flying home once a year until the August of 2019 when home and the bush was like a bomb about to explode. I spent 3 months preparing for a fire which missed my properties. Then Covid hit. Then my Japanese part had a stroke at the age of 30 She was bang up in hospital for a while and me stuck in Australia. In 2020 the year I was returning to Japan to live my daughter told me the her mother my ex wife has dementia and she needs help. So I decided to care to the person I hated so much 10 years prior. I been caring for for about 18 months and I reakon she got another 12 months before I had enough because it me who will decide when it time to move into full time respite.

Some people think that a marriage means that one (maybe both) has to give up and surrender everything for the other person. That's one-sided and it doesn't work.

I read once an article about Paul and Linda McCartney, he said 'sometimes we're wild about each other and sometimes not in love; but it's a marriage.' Something must've turned out right; it truly was until 'death do you part'. Linda died of breast cancer in 1998.

There is no difference between love and hate, you can love someone as much as you hate or hate them as much as you love them, the key is to try to stay in the middle!

Reminds me of the Phil Ochs song "Crucifixion": "Beneath the greatest love, there's a hurricane of hate".

As Tanita Tikaram sings, there's a good tradition of love and hate...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UbXsbGSoIWk